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| A good self-image has nothing to do with healthy eating and training hard |
There exists a body of thought that people with a nice 'perfect' body have a good self-image. That people who eat healthy, have a good self-image. But especially people who are thin, or very good sport with a lot of discipline and therefore have great muscles, have a healthy self-image.
Try your self-image to fix through diet
When I was a teenager, I found myself too thick and not pretty. I tried every Monday to start a new diet, exercise, do overly much movement in the context of weight loss. I was very poor and kept it never last long. It came about down to what I had to lose weight in the beginning of the week and at the end of the week I ate at it again. Then I started again the following Monday, which made me even more food by Monday, all the things that I was not myself during a diet. So I came earlier than I was losing weight.
A poor self image for the quality of your life
Still, I found the fat and ugly. I was finally just thicker, had no perseverance, no willpower, but to also to change anything. Actually, it just felt a little better, a loser. I compared myself constantly with other girls. I always checked how "my favored 'by other girls looked. Much better course. I did not swim alone bikini baking in my own backyard. When I went swimming and I had to actually get rid of my towel, I felt ugly, muddy and pitiful. Quickly that water in! I looked in the mirror constantly, not because I was happy with what I saw, but it was not. I read all the information on diets, lose weight and how it could be as soon as possible.
Do not get me wrong. My life was not dramatic. I had many girlfriends, friends, school was a koekie. I also enjoyed many things. But this uncertainty be expressed in all areas of my life.
Let it gooooo!
When I was fully ready from my 20th with diets, I let it go completely. I got a life, just wore whatever clothes wider where I felt comfortable to me, and did things that I liked. I thought no more time to eat or exercise, but it was just what it was, and I did rather enjoy enjoy the rest of my life. When I lost 8 kilos, without me even knowing it.
Looking good
Today, we strive for the best version of ourselves. And although health in there plays a role, it means for many to look incredibly good. Tight body, nice muscles, incredibly healthy diet, according to various rules, because that is healthy (we think). While we continue to kick against the ideal of beauty, there is a trend that you simply unwise to look good.
There is nothing wrong with looking good, everyone can look good and I think everyone has it in them. I personally see a lot of beautiful, strong women in my Instagram feed, which is nice to see. However, very healthy eating and training hard is not the same as a good self-image and healthy.
A really good self-image
If you are uncertain about your body, and you train very hard and is tremendously healthy eating, and you looks good, does not mean that you have created a really good self-image. It means that you have worked hard and have been successful in improving your body as you yourself had in mind. And that pretty distracting. And it's beautiful. And you may enjoy.
But. How would you feel if you suddenly arrive 20 kilos? Something happens and your muscles all disappear? How would you feel? Do you feel still the strong, powerful, beautiful woman? Is your good self in your body and how it looks, or your self-image actually very good, no matter what you look like, what happens to you, what anyone says to you and how is your day? Denotes good self-image hide behind something, or is that good self-image rooted in who you yourself are really?
A good self-image is not in your body, pretty muscles, gorgeous hair and slim-ness. A good self-image still exists when you arrive, if you sag when you have a bad hair day and when you go down the street without makeup. A good self-image has nothing to do with appearance. It's just a pity if we think we have a good self-image, while it actually is a fake good self-image. That means you can get the best out of yourself, and just so much to be gained.
Since my teenage years a lot has changed. I wish I could speak to myself, what I know now. I actually fantastic, good enough and never too much. Being different is not weird and unique not inappropriate. I would certainly tell you, and much more. Maybe a nice topic for another blog.